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TOPIC: Positive social development

Positive social development 1 year 4 months ago #23

  • Cara Swit
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Kia ora koutou,
What are some ways you promote positive social development in your tamariki?
Do you use any particular programs and/or resources that you can share?

Ngā mihi,

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Positive social development 1 year 4 months ago #40

  • Small is Beautiful Preschool
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Hi, we use a variety of strategies,mostly learned through our PD with a very skilled retired consultant psychologist who visits our centre for PD - to which we often invite parents so that we are on the same page as much as possible. At its simplest, we avoid "rewarding" the behaviour we want to extinguish in a child by not "noticing" the behaviour while also protecting others,/equipment/pets.That essentially means absolutely NO eye contact, NO moralising lectures BUT, catching the child when doing anything positive and rewarding with strong eye contact and brief words of acknowledgement. Much easier said than done as we females especially have a lot of faith in the power of reasoned argument to change behaviour-it does not!
To deal with repeated "offending",we may add a 30 second, kindly but definite hold of the offending limb e.g. a hand if child is hitting. This is amazingly successful over time. While the hand-hold is happening, the teacher focuses on something/someone else and maintains a calm, friendly voice. This technique is best demonstrated to staff by a person familiar with it as it's important to do it correctly. A version has been totally successfully used by us to eliminate biting!!! Another technique, giving choices,is found in "Love and Logic Magic in Early Childhood"- we use this to foster autonomy and self restraint.
Once staff have seen how successful these techniques are, they embrace them wholeheartedly. They feel empowered and are calm and relaxed as they do not use energy in a battle of wills!

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